Graham of Anywhere

The self-centric blogs and tweets of a lost gay boy

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Hey! I'm Graham, a 30-something from Edinburgh, living in London. I tweet and blog about life, love, and purpose from my perspective as a gay guy, an introvert, and, ultimately, a lost soul.

Roam these pages if you're lonely and listless, or if you're looking for something but you don't know what, or if you feel like you're chasing a better version of yourself. I can't promise you'll read anything worth reading because I write purely for myself, but, nonetheless, welcome.
I don’t want to follow. I’m not sure I want to lead. It’s easy when you’re young. You don’t understand that you don’t know. And as you grow, your confidence doesn’t…
An averge adolescence
I grew up in a nice family and I attended a reasonably good state school, all within a nice suburban neighbourhood in the west of Edinburgh, Scotland. My parents split up when I was…
There is sadness in separation and there is pain in divorce. I think that holds true quite generally, irrelevant of scale, and irrelevant of whatever events brought you there. Division represents failure…
So I guess we’re going back 18 years to talk about a boy I dated for six months in 2002. “We” being me and the deeper, more subconscious part of myself. The part of myself which owns…
Today I reloaded QueerAttitude.com into localhost. It’s been 6 years since I’ve seen it in its final state, and it’s still frozen in time at 5pm GMT, Saturday 11 May 2014. I wanted to…
I’m conscious of every passing day. They tick by less like moons and more like minutes, moving me ever closer to more of the same. They say that every day is another chance to turn it around but…
Jury service: 10 out of the 12 jurors chose the secular affirmation over a religious oath, which I found interesting (and encouraging). Less encouraging was that we had 0 black jurors trying a young black guy.
Today 17:28
Meanwhile, I'm back to questioning my life. I've travelled a little bit this year; Paris, Berlin, Santorini, and Athens so far. But I'm not making as much money as I want and I'm not enjoying primarily coding. I don't think I can ever reach my potential this way.
Today 18:36
Should Scotland [return to being] an independent country? Yes. The size and therefore influence of England means the UK will never and can never do its best by the other nations — especially when their needs deviate from those of the English.
Today 19:05
I feel like a foreigner among all this platinum jubilee stuff. I’m totally disconnected from it. It’s nostalgia for a country, but I’m from somewhere else entirely. I don’t feel annoyance at the celebration, but at the presumption that I should somehow feel pride.
05/06/2022 00:39
Almost three full days since the polls closed, and the only council in the country still counting is... London Borough of Croydon! They did manage to finish the mayoral count yesterday, at least, and the Croydonians saw fit to elect a Tory as the first Mayor of the borough ????
08/05/2022 18:31